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How To Stay Safe In A Threesome

Who doesn’t love a good threesome?  I’ve had more than my fair share of them, and will continue to do so as long as I possibly can (because, well, they’re awesome!).  Other than exactly how to have a threesome, a common sticking point is how to stay protected during the physical interaction.  In this article we’ll cover the most common types of threesome arrangements, and exactly how to stay protected from STDs and unwanted pregnancy.

Two women, one man

This is by far the most commonly thought of threesome, and certainly the most desired by us men.  But how do you keep everyone safe?  Do you wear condoms and change them between girls?  The same condom?  What?

If you’re already not using a condom with one of the women. (You’ve followed all birth control and STD protocols here and here)

First off, you need to talk to your partner about the “what ifs” and have a game plan in place.  What if the condom breaks?  How will you both deal with that situation?  If you’re following all the condom advice here, you shouldn’t have any problems, but it’s always a good idea to communicate these “what ifs” before you jump into the amazing world of threesomes. 

So, the best method to keep everyone protected in this scenario is to use a FEMALE CONDOM on the other woman.  This way you can seamlessly switch between women without having to stop and put a condom on or take it off.  You simply place the female condom inside the other woman, and leave it there.  Everyone can play and not have to worry about fluid exchange while switching partners.  You may have to lube up a bit before entering the female condom, but once everything is nice and slippery, you’re good to go. The biggest downside here is that female condoms are quite expensive compared to the usual male condom.

The next best method is to use a condom on the second woman.  This requires you to stop and put a condom on your penis before entering the other woman.  There is also some worry about fluid exchange between women, as the very base of your penis/pubis is usually exposed to fluids from each woman.  It’s a good idea to have wipes available to clean yourself when switching between partners to reduce the possibility of fluid exchange, but your chances of passing fluids between partners are greatly increased when using male condoms.  It’s also a bit of a hassle as putting on a condom can take you out of the moment and reduces spontaneity.

If all three of you are very close, and follow the Protocols, have a serious talk beforehand, get tested for STDs, and make sure both women are on an approved form of birth control (or you have a vasectomy), it’s up to the three of you whether you use any additional form of protection.  This requires a lot of communication and trust, and is not recommended for the occasional weekend kinkster, but can be extremely fun!

If you’re using protection with both women.

The best method here is to use two female condoms, one in each woman.  This way you don’t have to switch condoms between partners.  Lube up before entering each woman, and once everything is nice and slippery, you can switch between the two whenever you like.

The next is to use a different condom on each woman.  The problem here is just like above, where you have to stop and change condoms, taking you out of the moment.  There is also worry of fluid exchange as stated above, so cleaning between partners is a good idea.

Two men, one woman

Not my personal favorite threesome arrangement, but I’ve done it a handful of times and know some men who absolutely love them.  If you’re game to try or if it’s your thing, read on, stay protected, and have fun!

You and the woman aren’t using protection.

This is where you and the woman have a preexisting relationship in which you aren’t using protection together and invite another man to join in the fun.  This one is pretty simple and just involves the second man wearing a condom.  It’s always a good idea to have a talk beforehand about the possibility of the condom breaking.  What will you do?  How would each of you react to this event?  Communication in any threesome situation is key.

You are joining another couple.

This is the opposite as above where you are the one who must wear a condom.

All three are unfamiliar.

These are simple as well and both men must wear a condom.

I don’t recommend female condoms for this kind of threesome as they are impractical unless the two men know each other and are both tested and in agreeance with the arrangement.  In that rare case you can place a female condom in the woman and take turns.  But don’t forget protection if you’re doing any kind of anal!

As with any sexual scenario, accidents can happen. It’s always a good idea to have some Plan B on hand just in case.

Well, that’s it!  Stay safe and have fun!  I know I’ll get a million questions about how to arrange a threesome, so I’ll just say this now;  I will write a threesome guide (likely in e-book format) in the future on exactly how to find women for threesomes, sexual details on the specifics of having a threesome, etc. But it will be a while!  Be patient!

-Freeman

Freeman

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